The BBC ran a story last month on a young Somali named Mahad Olad. The article described a
young Muslim who left Islam because:
a) He could not accept a faith that “promotes” terrorism: a
terrorist threw a bomb into a Christian school, and the young Mahad heard a Somali cleric
justify it and and Mahad says, "I was like, this is what my faith promotes. This is
what Islam stands for. And if all these theories about Islam being inherently
connected to violence are true, then I don't think I can consider myself a
Muslim."
And;
b) He believed Islam does not accept gays: "I guess one
of the reasons I started questioning religion was because I felt I couldn't
reconcile the two," he says. "I did not believe there was a space for
me, as a gay person, to be Muslim."
I couldn’t begin to tell you how many times I have heard
something similar. It is always a young person, who doesn’t understand the
diversity of Islam, and who generally believes the type of Islam exposed to him or her is the
only “real” Islam.
Think of Ayaan Hirsi Ali, for example. She was a young woman
who jumped ship on her way to an arranged marriage. She suffered Female Genital
Mutilation. She suffered the second-class treatments many Muslims are
accustomed to in some parts of the Muslim World. And, just like Mahad, she left
her faith because she didn’t think it was for her.
Had young Mahad knew there was a long tradition of Muslims
who do not support terrorism, who support interfaith work, and who do not
believe in a world where this type of religion or that type of religion is
superior to another, what do you think he would do?
Had young Mahad knew there had always been LGBT Muslims who
had a supportive interpretation of the faith than the homophobic ones he was
accustomed to, what do you think he would do?
He would not leave his faith.
But Mahad, like Ayaan Hirsi Ali, is regrettably someone
whose ignorance of the faith exposed him to a life dominated by internal struggle. He has probably
never seen openly gay Somalis before he left his faith. He probably doesn’t know there is something as
openly gay imams, one of them being a Somali.
For one, Mahad was born “in between”: he was born, according
to the article, in Kenya in 1997 and his family moved to Minnesota in 2001. It
means, unfortunately, that he probably never even heard of the diverse queer Somali communities, including those in the Metro Area in which he grew up in Minnesota, or that some of us grew up in a time in Somalia where we never heard
of homophobia.
Imagine if he knew about the world Hamdi Sultan describes so
vividly in my book, “Being Queer and Somali”? Imagine if he knew the gay neighborhoods described in that book,
the LGBT Somali history communicated, or the many LGBT stories that survived the
hatred by informing the self?
Who should we blame?
First, and foremost, the Muslim community.
If we didn’t allow the extremists like the Salafis or Wahhabis
become the loudest members of our community, we could help young Muslims understand
the diversity of our faith. Support diverse voices, and you won’t have to deal with your
kids leaving your faith.
I personally support Sufism, Progressive Islam, and Moderate Islam.
I personally support Sufism, Progressive Islam, and Moderate Islam.
Think of this:
“Progressive Islam is an inclusive Islamic interpretation
that envisions a community for all followed by Progressive Muslims,” says Imam Daayiee Abdullah of MECCA
Institute. “This type of Islam, for example, supports Women’s Rights, LGBT
Rights, and Youth Rights.”
Do you think Mahad would leave Islam had he been exposed to
an Islam like that?
To the irresponsible so-called journalists of today, I say:
do a better job of investigating and telling a fuller story. If you talk about a
queer Somali who is leaving his faith, why not talk about queer Somalis who do
not? If someone says they left because they believed Islam was responsible for
the homophobia they experienced, why not share the stories of others who say
otherwise?
But, of course, adding fuel to Islamophobia sells more.
If you’re a British news agency, why not, for example, talk
about the fact that you introduced us to homophobia? Why don’t you tell your audience that the difference between Somalia and Djibouti is that you colonized
us in northern Somalia and the French in Djibouti, which is how one type of Somali
community (the folks in Djibouti) doesn’t have sodomy laws to fuel societal
homophobia.
Finally, to the young people like Mahad, I say: you’re
responsible for your life. So, this is not an attack on you or your choices; it
is just that I’m responsible for my life, too.